From Valuable to Referable: Becoming the Trusted Advisor

The more painful the situation, the more motivated we are to act. Here, we share an example of how an advisor can build a relationship with a client to become a trusted advisor and how that trust helps inspire referrals.

I recently renovated my kitchen. I planned to install new floors, dismantle old cabinetry, and have a professional install new cabinets and a new sink. My timeline was tight because the installer was fitting me in between other jobs.

The floor took longer than I had planned, and when I pulled the old cabinets off the wall, I discovered a big problem: the plumbing needed to be repositioned, and that task was way beyond my technical skills. Even worse, it needed to be done immediately or I’d lose my installer.

My usual plumber wasn’t available for two weeks! I managed to find an emergency plumber, who arrived at my house 90 minutes later and finished the work two hours before my installer arrived. The emergency plumber charged more than twice what my usual plumber would have billed—but given the magnitude of the problem, I was happy to pay the difference.

What Does a Plumbing Emergency Have to Do with Being a Financial Advisor?

My plumbing crisis provides helpful insights into human motivation. There is a progressive structure that organizes motivation. When a problem is simple, I prefer to fix it myself and save money. When the problem is complicated, I have a professional I trust, and I accept that I have to pay a fee for an expert to solve my problem. When the problem is huge and the consequences are dire, I’ll pay whatever it takes to solve the dilemma. Motivation increases with the severity of the problem. After all, nobody asks for a discount when they need emergency surgery.

Renowned behavioral finance researcher Daniel Kahneman teaches us that human motivation is largely a function of managing pain. His studies showed that pain is about two and a half times more motivating than an equal amount of pleasure. Thus, my emergency plumber can charge significantly more because of the magnitude of my painful problem.