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Let’s face it, there’s nothing more frustrating than a prospect who goes silent.
You’ve had a great conversation, they seemed interested, and you walked away feeling confident. Then… nothing. No response to your emails, no returned calls, just radio silence.
It’s like they vanished into thin air.
But here’s the truth: prospects don’t disappear without a reason. It’s not because they’re too busy or forgot about you. It’s because something happened during your conversation that left them feeling uncertain, uncomfortable, or unconvinced.
And most of the time, it’s because you didn’t go deep enough.
What lies beneath
Think of your sales conversation like an iceberg. On the surface, everything seems fine. Your prospect is nodding along, agreeing with what you’re saying, and showing interest. But beneath the surface, there’s a whole world of hidden fears, doubts, and concerns they’re not sharing with you. And if you don’t address those hidden layers, they’ll walk away from the conversation feeling unsure.
They won’t tell you this, of course. Instead, they’ll just disappear.
How do you make sure your prospects feel confident and clear about moving forward?
The answer is simple: you have to go deeper. You have to peel back the layers and uncover what’s really going on beneath the surface.
This means asking questions that most advisors are too afraid to ask. Questions like, “What’s the biggest challenge you’re facing right now?” or “What’s not working as well as you’d like it to?”
These questions might feel uncomfortable, but they’re essential. They show your prospect that you’re not just here to sell them something -- you’re here to understand them.
When people feel understood, they open up. They start to share their real concerns, their real needs, and their real priorities. But here’s the key: when they do open up, you have to resist the urge to jump in with a solution.
When questions are more valuable than solutions
Most advisors make the mistake of hearing a problem and immediately trying to fix it. But when you do this, you’re skipping over a critical step: helping your prospect fully understand the gravity of their problem.
You need to take them deeper into their own world. Ask questions like, “What happens if this doesn’t get solved?” or “How is this impacting you right now?”
These questions help your prospect see the full impact of their situation. They create urgency — not because you’re pushing them, but because they’re realizing it for themselves. And that’s when the magic happens.
When your prospect fully understands their problem, they’ll naturally start looking for a solution. Because you’ve been the one guiding them through this process, they’ll see you as the trusted advisor who can help them — not as the advisor trying to close the deal.
But let’s take this even further.
Sometimes, prospects disappear because they’re afraid to tell you the truth. They might not feel ready to move forward, or they might have concerns they’re too polite to share. This is where trust-based language becomes critical.
Instead of pushing for a decision, create a safe space for honesty. Say something like, “It’s okay if this isn’t a fit right now. I just want to make sure we’re on the same page.”
This diffuses pressure and invites them to share what’s really on their mind. And when they do, listen. Don’t try to convince them of anything. Just listen, acknowledge their concerns, and explore them together.
When people feel safe enough to tell you the truth, they stop disappearing. They start engaging. And they start seeing you as someone they can trust.
Avoid getting distracted
Now, let’s address one more reason prospects disappear: the dreaded “hopeium” trap.
Hopeium is what happens when you get so caught up in the excitement of a potential deal that you lose sight of the truth. You start focusing on what you hope will happen instead of what’s actually happening.
Then, when the deal doesn’t materialize, you’re left feeling blindsided.
To avoid this, shift your mindset from “closing the deal” to “getting to the truth.” Ask yourself, “Am I chasing this prospect because I think they’re a good fit, or because I’m afraid to let go?”
If it’s the latter, it’s time to step back. Chasing prospects who aren’t ready or aren’t a fit is a waste of your time -- and theirs. Instead, focus on building trust, uncovering the truth, and creating real connections.
When you do this, you’ll stop losing prospects to silence, and you’ll start building relationships that lead to meaningful, lasting opportunities. The next time you’re in a sales conversation, remember this:
- Don’t just stay on the surface.
Because when you do these things, your prospects won’t disappear. Rather, they’ll lean in, open up, and trust you to guide them forward.
And that’s how you turn silence into success.
Ari Galper is the world’s No. 1 authority on trust-based selling and is the most sought-after high net worth/lead generation expert for financial advisors. His newest book, “Trust In A Split Second” has become an instant best-seller among financial advisors worldwide – you can get a Free copy of Ari’s book here and, when you click the “YES” button in the order form, you’ll also receive a complimentary “plug up the holes” lead generation consultation. Ari has been featured in CEO Magazine, Forbes, INC Magazine and the Financial Review. He is considered a contrarian in the financial services industry and in his book, everything you learned about selling will be turned upside down. No more chasing, no pressure, no closing.
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