Here Come the Brides

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In 1905, my grandmother and her new husband left Okinawa for the sugarcane plantations of Hawaii. For reasons that will forever remain a family mystery, they decided to pack their things and set off across the Pacific to a country they had never seen.

As it turned out, they were lucky to have left when they did. Soon after, laws were passed to sharply restrict Asian and Eastern European immigration and, as a practical matter, the only way people could enter the country was if they had close family already here - a brother, a parent, or, for those who had no family on U.S. soil, a future husband. And so, the boom in "picture brides" began, as stateside single men engaged in the pre-Internet equivalent of Match.com ... marriages by photograph.

Arranged marriages were already common in Japanese culture, however, this new approach added even more to the element of surprise (with an arranged marriage, at least the parties got to meet in person before the wedding). Like Match.com, many a young bride found her groom to have lopped off more than a few years from his profile and to have lied about his financial situation. In some cases, the man who showed up to meet the ship was clearly not the guy in the picture, and that would not be because he was better looking, taller or younger.

When it comes to selecting a money manager, many clients today are casualties of the same opaqueness. Not that I'm suggesting that hiring a money manager includes the same solemn, lifelong commitment as choosing a spouse. But I do think that the hiring process, if not handled well, can also lead to disappointment.