Planning for the Disability Community

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According to the CDC, developmental disabilities affect approximately 17 percent of children aged 3-17 in the United States. As medical advances have continued, it’s become more likely that children with special needs may outlive their parents. According to the National Down Syndrome Society, the average life expectancy of a person with Down syndrome is 60 today. In 1983, it was only 25.

JAMA Pediatrics suggests the lifetime costs for caring for a person with autism to be $2.4 million.

As parents and caregivers to children with special needs, we’re faced with challenges most can’t imagine. The University of Wisconsin did a study that demonstrated mothers of a child with autism had stress hormone levels similar to soldiers in combat.

For families caring for loved ones with special needs, the shock of a diagnosis or fear of the results of an accident lead to angst and distress. Each of these are often followed by grief. It may sound strange to some reading this – after all, what is there to grieve? This person hasn’t died.

Grief is associated with the loss of normalcy for families and may dissipate. However, it can also linger, especially as their children move through childhood, adolescence and into adulthood. Families in the disability community face ableism1 and the ongoing dilemma of being viewed as “different,” or even as a burden. They confront much more than a neurotypical family.